True friendships are blessings based on love, respect and forgiveness. A friend see’s you for who you are and despite any personality differences knows that they can trust you to be compassionate and honest with them. Sharing how you feel in an unbiased and supportive manner is the key to a good friendship. This does not mean that we have to be perfect. Nevertheless we do have to exercise respect and kindness. Since we are all different, we have to acknowledge that each person brings something unusual and profound to a friendship. Friends enjoy each other’s gifts and talents and do not necessarily have to share similar interests. Friends mutually support each other to make personal choices and own them, knowing that when a decision was not for the best they have a friend to lean on when the going gets tough.
Some friends come into your life for a short time to teach you a lesson or guide you on a path at different stages of your life. A life-long friend is a soul-mate that shares life’s journeys with you. This does not mean that you will always be in touch. However, whenever you do spend time with each other it is as if you never parted because you mutually listen and respect one another without any expectations. They can just be with one another and support each other no matter who comes into their lives. Sometimes your dear friend is the last person you want to be around because they can see your sadness. Yet, the friendship becomes the foundation to which you can return to when you are ready to share what you are going through. A true friend is always ready to open the door again, and willingness to forgive in order to heals all rifts.
A faithful friend is always ready to listen and reflect on your relationship from a non-judgemental and thoughtful approach, even if it means going against the grain of what a friend believes to be true. This means that if they hate what you are doing, they are willing to share what it is that is making them unhappy, and if cutting words exchanges they can find forgiveness in their heart when they express remorse for their mistake. Trust in a friendship is a two-way road whereby it is necessary to be able to reflect on your strengths as well as your faults. Taking advantage of each other in a friendship is a non-starter, but despite this human mistake, forgiveness becomes the healer and rescuer.
It goes without saying that friendship is the basis for all intimate relationships including a romantic relationship. True love is about friendship and love first, before passion. These together are divine and the anchor of a good marriage. Having someone who shares the most intimate and vulnerable moments with you is true love.
According to C.S. Lewis, Philia, the Greek meaning of friendship, is the admirable of loves because it is not based on passion but the foundation of the friendship, freeing the participants of any self-consciousness. This means that the love, honesty, trust and loyalty between friends are by free choice, therefore, more difficult to achieve.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart – Elizabeth Foley