I have heard the story countless times, and perhaps I have been in the midst of it myself. The girl is surrounded by her friends, perplexed and listening attentively to the advice of her peers. “You can’t say I love you’ first,” or “Has he told you he loves you yet?” Maybe the words change from situation to situation, from girl to girl, from friends to friends; however the problem is always the same. When dating, why are we so concerned with the logistics of the first I love you’?
Maybe I just have a lot of love to give, or maybe those three words do not weigh so much with me. After all, how many individuals have boldly said “I love you” at the altar, only to be divorced five months later? How many young men sit stone-faced in front of their vulnerable girlfriends saying “I love you” only to walk out the next morning?
Whether it is me or society with the problem, I can’t say for sure. The one thing I do know is that saying “I love you” should not be something that requires so much thought or complicated discussion over when, where, and how. If you feel it, you feel it, and if you don’t, you don’t. Simple as that.
Ok, maybe things become increasingly complicated when in a relationship one person feels love and the other doesn’t. While some people might feel pressure from the first “I love you” particularly if it is unrequited, I maintain that if someone tells me they love me, even if I don’t love them back romantically, it still makes me happy. Furthermore, if I feel like saying “I love you,” which I do quite frequently, I think I should be able to without the fear of pushing someone away.
So, guess what? I LOVE YOU! I love all of you. Whoever is reading this, I love you. I don’t even care who you are. Love. Love. Love. There, I said it, and boy does it feel good!