The holidays are a time where most families come together to celebrate the end of the year with various feasts and the exchanging of gifts. However, some people aren’t fortunate enough to have the good times and cheery days that the rest of us get to have. It can be frustrating and disheartening to have to be dealing with a fractured family, and is difficult to deal with. So how do you go about dealing with it?
If you don’t have a family, you should find some people who will treat you like family. Maybe it is a close friend that will take you in, or maybe a girlfriend that will let you spend time with that family for the holidays. It doesn’t take much to enjoy the holidays, and most people will be happy to just be included in the spirit of the holidays.
Sometimes the holidays are a good time to actually get past family disputes, or disputes with close friends. All it takes is one side to realize that most problems can be solved through dialogue and letting bygones be bygones. Sometimes the spirit of togetherness can bring both sides together and help them to solve their problems.
Having a support system in place to deal with your issues is a good thing to have to. I have seen too many people try to resort to drinking or other means to get through the problems that they have with the holidays where everyone always seems to be so happy, and they are not as happy. Using alcohol or drugs to get past your problems will only make things worse.
If part of your family issues are due to drugs and alcohol, now might be the time to get them help. Use the spirit of the season to show them that the family does love them and wants them to get better. It might not work, but perhaps it is the best time to try and get someone to somehow change the way that they act and see that things could be better if they tried.
Family problems are never fun regardless of the season. If you are having issues with your family, this might be a good time to try to get those issues out in the open. It is never good to keep your feelings pent up, especially when it comes to family. Some problems can never be fixed, but it is always better to at least try.