Everyone Loves to be Praised

Praise is an effective tool for motivating, encouraging and raising self-confidence.

Praise is the basic philosophy of a successful discipline method referred to as “Positive reinforcement.” The object is to catch a child doing something good and administer praise, as opposed to taking a negative approach to discipline. The result is that the child learns proper behavior while his self-esteem remains intact.

Praise is also an effect people skill when dealing with adults. Everyone likes to be appreciated and acknowledged. Students of teachers who possess the wisdom to use praise enjoy learning. Employers who are generous with praise often have employees who enjoy a high level of job satisfaction and productivity.

There is no age limit to the ability to increase or instill self-confidence. Spirits soar and self-esteem thrives with the nurturing encouragement of lavish doses of praise.

There are three key components to offering effective praise:

* Sincere

* Specific

* Honest

– Sincere –

Genuine praise is spontaneously given with pure motives. Praising someone because you want something, or offering praise to another in order to make yourself feel like a nice person is not sincerely motivated. People can tell when they are receiving authentic, well-deserved praise, and when that happens, self-confidence elevates.

– Specified –

In order to instill self-confidence, the praise offered must be specific. Saying, “You are a good employee,” is rather generic. More effective is specifically stating, “Your work on that project was outstanding. I can always count on you for excellent performance.”

Praise should not be tied to a criticism. Saying, “You did a good job, but,” negates the praise. The word, “but,” is an automatic disqualifier when the goal is to offer sincere praise.

The praise given should also be timely. When praise is delayed, it loses effectiveness. This is an important thing to remember with children, who might have a shorter attention span. When an individual has done something praise-worthy, be prompt in appreciating and acknowledging the good deed.

– Honest –

Phony praise will have the opposite effect of what you are hoping to achieve. Over-the- top praise, that is out of proportion to the deed, will be perceived as not sincere. You cannot manipulate sincere praise. Having an optimistic attitude and looking for the good in others is the surest way for finding opportunities to give honest praise.


Whether you are motivating employees, encouraging students or guiding small children into socially acceptable behavior, offer praise with a generous spirit and authentic heart.

Being sincere, specific and honest, will result in raising the self-confidence level of those with whom you interact and garner you satisfying relationships.